Exploring the "Should's": Is it Necessity, Desire, or Guilt?
How many times a day do you find yourself using the word "should"?
ADDers are full of "should's": I should do the dishes, I should clean out the fridge, I should see that movie, I should call my friend, etc.
The word "should" can be very dangerous to an adult with ADD, because it often results in guilt.In order to break through this and help you prioritize the things that you "should" do, try exploring your "should's" by asking yourself the following question:Is this a necessity, a desire, or guilt?
Here are some examples:I should do my taxes.Necessity:
If you don't do your taxes, you can find your finances slipping out of control.
You can end up owing the government penalty fees.
And you will absolutely have undue stress.
This "should" is a necessity.I should buy that CD.Desire: This is something that you want to make you happy.
You like the music you hear, and therefore you want to own it.
This "should" is a desire.I should clean my house more often.Guilt:
If the "should" comes when you compare yourself to others, then guilt is probably involved.
It often happens when we feel like we are not living up to the performance or expectations of others (or our perceived performance/expectations of others.)
If you visit a friend's house and its neat and clean, you may falsely interpret this to mean that your friend cleans all the time.
In reality, your friend may have spent hours cleaning her/his house before you arrived to make it look nice!
If you are physically and mentally comfortable with the amount of time you spend cleaning your house, then cleaning more often is not a necessity, it's not a desire, its a "should" that is just useless guilt!Try this exercise for a whole day.
Every time you find yourself using the word "should," ask yourself if its a necessity, desire, or guilt.
I promise that you'll feel a lot a better about all the things you think you "should" be doing!? Copyright 2004.
Jennifer Koretsky is a Professional ADD Management Coach who helps adults manage their ADD and move forward in life. She encourages clients to increase self-awareness, focus on strengths, and create realistic action plans. She offers a 90-day intensive skill-building program, workshops, and private coaching. Her work has been featured in numerous media, including The New York Times Magazine. To subscribe to Jennifer?s free email newsletter, The ADD Management Guide, please visit http://www.addmanagement.com/e-newsletter.htmjennifer@addmanagement.comDiet and Exercise ? Without Going to the Gym
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Exercise equipment is right under your nose; just find something that works for you.
- Walking is still regarded as a fantastic way to exercise. Thirty to sixty minutes a day will get your blood pumping and metabolism moving. Walk around the neighborhood or find a city park.
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Interzone Productions Music Industry Showcase
New Yory, NY (ContentDesk) April 7, 2006 -- Interzone Productions is hosting a music industry showcase at Don Hill's, NYC on April 27th, 2006. Doors open at 8pm. 3 exciting new bands are performing live: Tramping Ground from Raleigh, NC., Bluish from Staten Island, NY and Woodfish from Red Bank, NJ. These bands are all experiencing exploding fan bases and are generating significant buzz on their hometown stages.The audience will be filled with fans and executives from all facets of the music industry. Major and independent record labels, booking agents, managers, lawyers, publicists and many other types of representation will all be in attendance.
Tickets are $5 in advance or $10 at the door. Free to music industry personnel. Contact Void for info regarding tickets via email at www.interzonestudios.com or call 631-278-0794.Don Hill's is located at 511 Greenwich St. at Spring St. in New York City.
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The perfect golf swing.
Aren't we all look for it?
Now the educating part.
The perfect golf swing is not attainable!
Did that get your attention?
Let me say it one more time.
The perfect golf swing is not attainable!
Unless?you have a higher level of strength and flexibility specific to golf.I know you've probably heard this before?but the question is?did you take it to heart?
Or did you just shrug your shoulders and continue on the same frustrating path to your hopeful golf improvement?When we break down the golf swing mechanically and physically?it's amazing to see what the body goes through when a near perfect golf swing is performed.
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Upper spine and low back strength.
Then hamstring strength and flexibility.
Shoulder stability from a rotation standpoint.
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Georgetown, TX (ContentDesk) May 10, 2006 Several countries are turning to ethanol blended bio-fuels as a way to increase their oil independence from foreign oil and to help lower fuel costs. The United States is following in the footsteps of Brazil and other countries to take advantage of this technology, as consumers are realizing that there is an alternative to high oil prices. The development of renewable fuel for home heating and vehicle consumption began in 1973, during the last gas crisis, when prices skyrocketed and fuel availability was limited. As pump prices are at near record highs again this spring, organic sources of renewable fuel are getting a more serious look from consumers as well as politicians. Many drivers are ready to do whatever it takes to cut their costs, even if it means making the fuel themselves , according to Nat Norton, publisher of
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Every year is the same. Even leap years are the same as other years. Each January is followed by a February. There is always a November before December. Tuesday arrives after Monday.
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Is it possible for a comedian, comedy entertainer or humorous speaker to actually be addicted to the stage?
Comedy guru Steve Roye points out some stunning similarities between an addict in search of a drug and a performer in search of stage time in a just released article entitled "Stage Addiction: Myth or Reality".Roye is quick to point out that unlike most addictions, stage addiction can have positive or negative ramifications, depending upon the skill level and expertise of the performer.
"Drugs provide a 'high' for the user.
A successful comedy show or presentation provides an extreme 'high' for the performer.
Drug users are driven to get the 'fix' ? performers are driven to get stage time, which provides a very potent type of 'fix', even though no external chemical is involved.
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